As I’m on my second marriage now (first wife died before I even met the second one as you already know Ellen) - I know people can be judgemental as to the reasons why a marriage ended!
There’s a double standard applied to people whose marriages end because one half dies, compared to separation and/or divorce (although less with the latter two than there used to be).
What I do know from when my first marriage ended unexpectedly in accidental death - is that coping with such a change can take a lot of time and processing and support from those round you.
However you are right that we make our own choices in life - wherever those may lead!
I think "sticking it out" is the advice given to so many of us in childhood, and it's assumed that the "payoff" will be worth it but really, you're absolutely right - sometimes it's healthier to quit. Sending lots of love to you (and your little one)! xx
It is really powerful to hear such a personal perspective, Ellen. It's brilliant. And thank you for being so kind :-)
Hi Ellen,
That was a very personal and well written piece.
As I’m on my second marriage now (first wife died before I even met the second one as you already know Ellen) - I know people can be judgemental as to the reasons why a marriage ended!
There’s a double standard applied to people whose marriages end because one half dies, compared to separation and/or divorce (although less with the latter two than there used to be).
What I do know from when my first marriage ended unexpectedly in accidental death - is that coping with such a change can take a lot of time and processing and support from those round you.
However you are right that we make our own choices in life - wherever those may lead!
Good luck with the conference next week!
Incredible post Ellen. I know you don't need external validation but FWIW I think you are amazing x
I think "sticking it out" is the advice given to so many of us in childhood, and it's assumed that the "payoff" will be worth it but really, you're absolutely right - sometimes it's healthier to quit. Sending lots of love to you (and your little one)! xx
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