I've been doing goal-setting this week, and actually when asked how I want to FEEL this time next year, I would be pretty happy to feel as I do now. We've got just about enough money to manage, I don't feel stressed and I'm enjoying the work I do. Do I need to improve? I'm not sure I do really! We're sold a lie that life should be this constant upward trajectory, it's total bollocks. Great newsletter as always, Ellen. PS also hooked on the Traitors - got the kids watching it now as well, they're even more obsessed than I am!
I feel you could probs do 20 part series on toxic positivity - it’s literally everywhere and awful 😓
I agree that Workplaces especially benefit from framing valid criticism as ‘negativity’ - and I’ve lost count of how many social posts I’ve seen of people ‘cutting out the toxic and negative friends in their life’ for their own supposed betterment.
The inability of people to tolerate even a moment of discomfort should be studied in a lab!
So yeah maybe the thing I wouldn’t change about myself is that I am an unapologetic hater 😂
"...companies don’t benefit from contentment." We need billboards or something similar that say this everywhere. Ever since someone pointed out that even success on dating apps is a "mistake" (the app fucked up and connected people instead of keeping them a continuous customer), I realized that no company is really out to make us better. Not sure if anyone ever is, but that's existential in a different way lol.
In 2024, I'm keeping writing my newsletter, writing in the same journal since 2020, hanging out with my friends doing nothing, and probably not eating as healthy as I'd ideally like to, the very same.
Thanks so much for writing about this and for linking/quoting my post as well. 💜
We went to that museum when we visited newcastle in June and I thought it was the most magical place. ❤️🙌🏻
I've been doing goal-setting this week, and actually when asked how I want to FEEL this time next year, I would be pretty happy to feel as I do now. We've got just about enough money to manage, I don't feel stressed and I'm enjoying the work I do. Do I need to improve? I'm not sure I do really! We're sold a lie that life should be this constant upward trajectory, it's total bollocks. Great newsletter as always, Ellen. PS also hooked on the Traitors - got the kids watching it now as well, they're even more obsessed than I am!
I feel you could probs do 20 part series on toxic positivity - it’s literally everywhere and awful 😓
I agree that Workplaces especially benefit from framing valid criticism as ‘negativity’ - and I’ve lost count of how many social posts I’ve seen of people ‘cutting out the toxic and negative friends in their life’ for their own supposed betterment.
The inability of people to tolerate even a moment of discomfort should be studied in a lab!
So yeah maybe the thing I wouldn’t change about myself is that I am an unapologetic hater 😂
"...companies don’t benefit from contentment." We need billboards or something similar that say this everywhere. Ever since someone pointed out that even success on dating apps is a "mistake" (the app fucked up and connected people instead of keeping them a continuous customer), I realized that no company is really out to make us better. Not sure if anyone ever is, but that's existential in a different way lol.
In 2024, I'm keeping writing my newsletter, writing in the same journal since 2020, hanging out with my friends doing nothing, and probably not eating as healthy as I'd ideally like to, the very same.
Thanks so much for writing about this and for linking/quoting my post as well. 💜